What is the secret of emotionally healthy people?
What are the beliefs of emotionally healthy people? You probably have someone in your life who seems to have a good attitude about anything and everything. Maybe that’s you? If not, but you would like to work on it, here are some beliefs that you have to adopt to be emotionally healthy.
These are according to Dr. Ellen Hendriskon, a psychologist who identified a pattern of beliefs common for all emotionally healthy people. Before we go any further, here is one thing to remember – nobody has all of these beliefs all the time. No one is perfect so there is no reason to beat yourself up because this is not you. We all have some of these beliefs sometimes. However, these beliefs are good to review in order to establish where you are now, and where you need to be in order to be an emotionally healthy person.
Let’s start! Emotionally healthy people’s beliefs are:
“I can do things I don’t feel like doing.”
We’ve all been there, we need to do something, but we just don’t feel like doing it. How do you start? You start by doing the thing. Most of the time, your mood and motivation will catch up, and even if it remains the same, you will get things done and you will feel good once it’s completed.
“I can stay the course”
Maybe you have debt that you need to pay off but you have a plan and you believe you can stay the course. Or maybe something as simple as spending afternoons watching Netflix while you know you should be doing something else. You believe you can stay the course and be more productive or go out and spend some time with your friends and family, not binge-watch your favorite show on Netflix.
“I can roll with the punches.”
You hit obstacles and what do you do? Do you give up or do you find your way around it? This belief reflects a certain level of flexibility and the ability to adapt. This one can be difficult for many and it requires practice to become flexible and to keep pushing when things get hard.
“I am capable.”
Being resilient and believing in yourself is crucial for protecting yourself from anxieties. The work you do or don’t do can have an impact on your confidence. Still, the most important thing is to stay focused and to believe that you are capable to deal with any issue that you might have.
“I can laugh at myself.”
When you make a mistake, do you beat yourself up or do you laugh about it? Do you lash out? Having the right perspective when you make a mistake is really important. Laugh and take everything less seriously instead beating yourself over an embarrassing mistake.
“I can love and I am capable of love.”
Harvard began a study in 1938, the Study of Adult Development and it is a study that’s lasted for the past 80 years. Although the study has many implications, everything boils down to one thing – love. Believing you are worthy of love and believing that you can love is crucial for staying emotionally healthy.
Many have harmful thoughts instead of healthy ones. It takes a long time to adopt these beliefs and it takes practice. No one is really born with these beliefs. Also, let’s remember if we recognize that we have negative thoughts we can and should seek the help of a professional who can guide you to healthier mental habits.