Temper tantrums are not only hard to handle, but they also can be embarrassing and annoying for anyone especially when it happens in public. Whatever we do it seems that it’s simply not working.
What Causes Temper Tantrum?
Temper tantrum usually occurs when a child doesn’t know how to manage a frustration. If you are wondering is there anything you can do to prevent child temper tantrum, the answer is probably not. Why? Adults have tantrums too, for example when we are stuck in traffic or when a child is not listening to us, but adults have a better control of their behavior and children are still learning.
What not to Do?
Responding with anger and giving in is something that won’t help a child to develop self-control. It’s crucial to stay calm and to be a good model for a child. Here are a few tips on what can you do help a child develop control over emotions and frustrations.
Stay Calm and Talk to Your Child
Having a temper tantrum over a child’ temper tantrum will just make things worse. Instead, ask your child what’s wrong and make sure they have everything they truly need; maybe he needs a nap or your attention. If a child wants something you don’t approve, explain why they can’t have it.
It’s important for a child to learn that there are consequences for their behavior. Moreover, if you tell a child that they have to go to their room if they don’t calm down, make sure you stick with your decision.
If a child is experiencing a full-blown tantrum, reasoning won’t be efficient. “Time out” will give a child some space to vent and they will realize that their behavior won’t get them what they want. Additionally, explain to a child that you will talk to him/her once they calm down. A child should understand that his being ignored because his behavior is not acceptable, not because their parents don’t love them.
What to do When Child is Throwing Tantrum in Public?
We don’t want to be perceived as bad parents who are raising a demon child. The chances are other parents understand, and they don’t judge, probably some people who don’t have children will judge, but that’s not your problem. When a child throws a tantrum in public, it’s important to stay calm, try talking to a child and if it doesn’t help, it’s time to remove a child from that situation or place.
If your child keeps throwing temper tantrums no matter what you do, consider getting professional help, especially if tantrums continue as a child is getting older.