What is the best breakup advice? No contact. If you haven’t heard about no contact, you definitely should, especially if you just broke up or if you have a friend who just broke up with her boyfriend. Here is the reality of going no contact.
No contact is truly the most mature and appropriate way of dealing with a breakup after your significant other decided to move forward without you. I would recommend no contact to anyone who is dealing with a broken heart weather they want their partner back or not. With no contact, you are refraining from contacting your ex-partner for a significant period of time (meaning: at least for four weeks). In this way, you are dealing with the breakup with strength, maturity, and dignity which are all very attractive and desirable qualities compared to desperation, tears, and needy behavior. Instead of texting, calling or even stalking your ex-partner, you refrain yourself from any form of contact.
With no contact, relationship coaches believe that you can reconnect with your ex. Is that true? Not entirely. When it comes to relationships, there is no one rule which applies to everyone. We might try everything when we are desperate over a broken heart. However, there is no smart alternative than no contact after after a breakup to be able to heal first and possibly reconnect after some time when both parties have had some time to think about the relationship in a less emotionally charged way.
What is the point of no contact? You are taking time to take care of yourself. Of course, you may keep yourself busy, go for a manicure after work or go for a yoga class, but the pain of a broken heart will not go away overnight. But the point is to avoid looking needy, instead, you should work towards healing and moving on after the breakup.
Usually the cases that if you don’t contact your ex for four weeks, suddenly your ex-partner wonders where you are and what happened? You are posting pictures on your social media where it seems like you are having so much fun, and your ex is completely confused and intrigued. What will he do? He will contact you. Or, after four weeks, you will contact your ex-partner, all fresh, feeling new, and ready to win his heart over. After four weeks of taking care of yourself, you will be fully recovered over a broken heart and ready to date your ex like you’ve just met.
However, here is the main truth about no contact.
Well, the first thing you should know, although he might be intrigued, he will not necessarily contact you in the first month after a breakup or even in the first few months. The other important thing to keep in mind is that after four weeks, you will most likely move on with your life and forget about your ex. Although this is something that you don’t count on in the first few days after the breakup and it can even make you feel sad, the notion that you will forget him but this is the most likely scenario. No contact should always be applied instead of looking desperate or even annoying, you should take some time to think about yourself and heal, not about the relationship or another person.