What are the traits of emotionally resilient people? Here, we are going to discuss three traits you can work on to become more emotionally resilient.
You might think that it would be great if you could be more emotionally resilient. If you could focus on things that matter instead of wasting your emotional energy on things that don’t matter at all. The good news is these are traits that you can have if you dedicate your time and energy to growing and becoming more resilient.
Why It’s Important to be Emotionally Resilient?
We have all encountered hardship in our lives. It’s important to understand that each hardship comes with the opportunity not only to bounce back but to grow as a person. What happens when we are not emotionally resilient? Without emotional resilience, we don’t respond well to any change, adversity and most importantly we don’t respond well to stress.
Stress is something that we can’t escape in our daily lives. That’s not only typical for the modern world. Our ancestors dealt with a lot of stress as well but it was a different type of stress. To win the battle against stress we should work on becoming emotionally resilient.
Now in a world of insecurity and the pandemic, it becomes even more important to be emotionally resilient. We are all in this boat together.
Here are traits that emotionally resilient people have in common, and how can you work on building the traits that you don’t have.
There’s Meaning for Everything
Finding meaning for every situation helps us deal with stressful events. One thing that can make or break a person is whether we are able to give meaning to the situation that we encountered. It could be a big change or hardship that we might have in life.
Finding meaning in a hardship doesn’t mean that you are happy about it or satisfied that this happened to you but you won’t dwell on it either. When you opt for understanding a situation and finding meaning in it, you will find it easier to deal with stress and build emotional resilience.
Once you find meaning, you will more likely find a lesson that you need to learn to help you grow as a person.
If you want to achieve emotional resilience, you need to start cultivating psychological capital which essentially means strength. You need to know yourself better, build your strength, and use it to help you overcome hard times. When you know yourself, situations around you might change but you’re staying true to yourself.
Of course, knowing yourself will take some time. Also, the process of knowing yourself will look different for everyone. There is no one size fits all approach here. For some, meditation might be a way to find inner peace. For others, that might be religion or something completely different. Whatever you find useful, go with it.
Let’s keep in mind that we all have some level of psychological capital with ourselves. It’s just a matter of building and becoming more strong and powerful which will help you deal with big changes.
Are You Patient with Yourself?
Ask yourself are you patient with yourself? If the answer is yes, you are halfway there. If the answer is no, that’s not an issue since emotional resilience and patience don’t come as second nature to everyone. Patience is something that we need to cultivate just like inner strength.
To become patient with yourself, you actually need to start with others. We are often stricter with ourselves more than we are with others. If we are not patient with others, chances are high that we are not patient with ourselves. Practice patience with others. Also, treat yourself as you would treat your favorite, loving friend for whom you have all the patience in the world.
These are challenging times. Things have changed and maybe things are not working as we thought they would. However, that doesn’t mean that things won’t work our way. Find the meaning, find strength, and be patient.
When you are able to apply meaning to tough moments, find a place of strength, and become patient with yourself, there is no challenge that you can’t overcome.